A good divorce?

It is probably fair to say that “good” is not the first word that springs to mind when people think of divorce, or separating. It won’t be possible in all cases, but if couples who are separating try their best to work together and instruct the right solicitors, then it can make the whole process if not good, certainly less stressful and easier to navigate.

How do you put yourself on the route to a good divorce?

Working constructively with your solicitor is one of the most important parts of the journey. You need someone that you trust and that you are able to work with for as long as it takes to resolve matters. Your solicitor will be involved in your life on an extremely personal level during the negotiations and preparations that will ultimately lead to your divorce.

Is there a set of rules I should follow when choosing a solicitor?

There is no set way to choose a solicitor. We would suggest your solicitor should be straightforward and set out the various options that are available to you, even if some of those are not in line with your view or what you think you are looking to achieve. There is little point in having a solicitor who is afraid to be frank and honest with you, particularly given the ongoing impact any agreement you enter into may have. A good solicitor will take you through the advantages and disadvantages of all options.

For each client, there are different factors which will be more important. For some, cost will be the most pressing matter, for others time; others will be focused on arrangements in respect of the children over financial matters and vice versa. However, the mark of a good solicitor is the ability to focus on those issues which are important to the client and tailor their advice accordingly to determine the best course of action.

And of course, it is helpful if you are able to get on well with your solicitor, and have trust in them. Arguably the most important part of the solicitor client relationship is ensuring that you are comfortable with your solicitor. You are likely to be working with your solicitor for a considerable period of time, through what may be one of the most difficult times of your life, so you want to make this process as easy as it can be. Having a solicitor that you have a rapport with tends to make things less daunting or difficult.

Where do I go from here?

Another important consideration is where your divorce should be resolved. By this we mean which forum – Litigation, Mediation, Arbitration, Collaboration and Negotiation are all possibilities which should be carefully considered. Alternative Dispute Resolution (moving away from Litigation) methods are all extremely useful tools which can allow parties to come to a resolution on their own terms. The focus should always be the simplest way to divorce without unnecessary litigation where possible.
It is of course important that you provide all of the facts to your solicitor. Nothing will shock or surprise them and it is likely they have seen it all before. The important thing is to be as upfront as possible to allow them to effectively do their job and advise you properly from the outset, reducing the possibility of any nasty surprises along the way.

How can you help me?

Choosing the right solicitor means the difference between a negative, expensive experience and a springboard into your life as a new divorcee, able to move on. We pride ourselves on our commitment to our clients, and ensuring they have a good experience when instructing our office and progressing their separation and divorce. Whilst we appreciate it is unlikely to be described as enjoyable, we are able to ensure that clients move forward satisfied with the experience and the outcome.

Call us today on 01383 431 101 or email danielle@caritaslegal.co.uk to discuss the first steps on the path to a good divorce.

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